From the time we were 6 years old, sitting in the living room floor, under the blanket fort we had spent the entire day building, watching Cinderalla for the 19th time that week, we have dreamt of our prince charming. We saw the happy endings in all of the fairytales and created our own visions of how ours would some day be.
From that point on, living meant finding our ‘person’. You know, the one that would come along and sweep us off of our feet at the most unexpected, yet absolutely perfect time. From your partner in Chemistry to the new guy that just flew in from out of state just in time to be your date to the prom or the shy guy behind the counter that sells you a venti, french vanilla frappuccino on your way to work every morning, you question the people you’ve met. Is he the right guy? Did I already meet him and miss my chance? Will I ever find THE ONE? Am I going to be the crazy cat lady (or dog lady, if you’re like me) that’s forever alone?
Don’t worry ladies, we’ve all been there.. It’s scary to see everyone around you settling down, getting married, having kids, the whole sha-bang, while you struggle to decide whether Chipotle or Hot Heads has better burritos. We get so caught up in what we think should be happening and trying to plan a perfect future, that we tend to let the present slip away and that’s where the mistake lies.
You see, the problem is we tend to get so caught up in the idea of “perfect” that we over analyze every person and every situation. The fairytales we watched as children and the love stories we cry over time and time again, tend to leave the not-so-perfect parts out.
It wasn’t until I found my ‘person’ that I realized just what it took to get him. Life is crazy, that’s no surprise to anyone. As soon as everything starts going right, it has a way of making sure we don’t get too comfortable. Relationships are the same way. Everyone makes mistakes, as matter of fact, most of us on a daily basis, so why should we expect a relationship, containing two non-perfect people, to be perfect when we ourselves, are not? It will probably take several heart breaks, a few bottles of your favorite wine, lots of ice cream, some chick flicks, and plenty of sleep overs with your girlfriends, before you find the one you’ve always wanted, but let me just tell you, when you do, there will not be a doubt in your mind.
The thought of “perfect” slowly transitions into that person once you meet him, but wait, that’s a little contradicting right? Since I had previously stated that no one’s perfect.. But that’s the whole idea! When you find your prince charming, you’ll realize that he’s actually not perfect at all. He might pay more attention to his video game than you while he beats that last level or leave the toilet seat up no matter how many times you ask him not to. He’ll probably lose track of time and be late to dinner more than once or make plans with you forgetting he has a baseball tournament that same weekend.. Chances are he’ll drive you crazy and make you want to pull your hair out at least once a day, but guess what? In your eyes, those flaws will be well worth it, they will be your vision of ‘perfect’. When his chest becomes your favorite pillow and being in his arms is your safe haven, when he’s the last thing you think about each night and the first person on your mind each morning. When you miss him before he even pulls out of the driveway, that’s when it will all make sense.
Your relationship will not always be easy, it won’t be rainbows and butterflies forever. The puppy love stage will only last for so long and before you know it, you’ll have your first big fight, then another, and another after that, but the key to eternity with your ‘person’ is to hold on and hold on tight. There will be obstacles you face as a couple, some worse than others, but when you face them as a team, you’ll soon realize the amazing things you can accomplish together, you just can’t give up. At the end of the day, the hardships you’re faced with will bring you that much closer, the bond you form will be truly unbreakable. When you find THE ONE , don’t let go, your fairytale may not be perfect like the movies, but it will be perfect for YOU.