A Letter To The Woman That Raised The Man of My Dreams..

Dear _______,
​It’s me, the girl who will hopefully become your daughter-in-law someday. I just wanted to let you know how grateful I am for you. There are so many remarkable things I could say about you since getting to know you over the last couple years, but the one thing that stands out the most, is your son and the way you raised him. We both know he’s a handful so it couldn’t have been easy, but I praise you for a job well done, as he is truly one of a kind. I just wanted to let you know how much you are appreciated and express my gratitude..

Thank you for accepting me.

You have accepted me into your home and welcomed me with open arms from the very first day I met you. You have made me feel comfortable and it’s as if I am just part of the family. Thank you for your hospitality.

Thank you for teaching your son the definition of trust.

In today’s society, lying and cheating are just part of the norm. It’s not unusual to hear about couples failing due to trust issues, but because you’ve shown him how to be open and honest, I have no worries.

Thank you for setting a good example.

Not just for him, but for me as well. You can light up any room with your free spirit and quirky personality. Sometimes, I question if you ever have a ‘bad’ day. I look up to you for the happiness you bring to your household and I hope to bring the same light to my own family someday.

Thank you for showing him how to love.

You loved him first and it’s because of the way that you loved him that he’s now so passionate and loves so strongly. The support and devotion you’ve given him over the years has helped to shape him into the caring and generous man that he is today. You have such a big heart, as does your son. It’s obvious that he got that trait from you.

Thank you for understanding.

You are always there to listen and to provide advice. Regardless of the situation, you never pass judgment or discernment. You are unbelievably compassionate. We can come to you for anything and talk to you about everything, with no questions asked. You are one of our biggest supporters and it’s truly a blessing to have you.

Thank you for everything.

For letting me in and sharing your son. For giving me some of your cooking tips and sharing all of your knowledge. For believing in me and in your son. For encouraging us as a couple. For laughing with us and showing us what happiness is all about.

I could go on for forever as I think so highly of you, but I will spare you and sum it up. I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I met your son; I definitely didn’t think that I would gain a second family along the way, but I couldn’t imagine things being any different now. Your approval was so very important to me and I am forever thankful to have the relationship that we do now. You raised the love of my life and there are no amount of words that could ever express how truly grateful I am. Thank you for being you.

10 Ways A Guy Says ‘I love you’ Without Actually Saying It..

As girls, we tend to overthink everything, I mean everything. If an old friend doesn’t smile at us and say hi as we pass them in the store, we automatically assume that they no longer like us. When in reality, they were probably just in such a rush that they didn’t even notice we were there. If a waiter tells us he’s got a coupon for 25% off of alcoholic beverages for the evening; our minds are already trying to find ways to avoid giving him our number because we just know he totally wants our bodies.. When in reality, every waiter/waitress in the restaurant is giving out the same offer to boost their bar sales. When it comes to the opposite sex, no amount of reassurance will ever be enough to settle our wandering minds. You will always question if he loves you and worry when he doesn’t actually say it enough. But take a breather ladies and relax, here are 10 signs that he loves you without even saying a word…

1. He plays with your hair.                                While you’re laying there, binge watching your favorite show on Netflix, you randomly feel him playing with your hair. You didn’t have to ask, beg, or plead. Yup, that’s right, he willing did it on his own because he knows how much you love it. If he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t notice the little things that make you happy, such as, kissing your forehead or playing with your hair after a long stressful day.

2. He talks about you to his friends.                 He doesn’t talk about how the two of you got down and dirty until 3 AM the night before, but he talks about your date night and how awesome the movie was. He tells them how funny it was and how it made you laugh so hard, you were crying and everyone turned to look. He boasts about you and brings you along to hang out. If he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t care to share your totally awesome personality with the guys.

3. He talks about you to his family.                  This is important. His family is the people you really need to impress. So, if he’s not afraid to tell them all about you and talk about the future plans the two of you have made, he’s serious. If he didn’t love you, he wouldn’t care if the people he cares most about like you or not. If he didn’t love you, they probably wouldn’t even know that you exist.

4. He opens the door.                                                 Call me old fashioned, but I believe that chivalry is not dead. If he really loves you, he will do things like, save you the last bite of your favorite meal or pull out your chair when you go out to dinner, just to show that he respects you.

5. He shares the television.                                             We all know how much a guy loves his tv. Whether it be playing Xbox or watching Sports Center, if he gives it up to let you watch Lifetime or whatever reality tv shows you’re into this month, it shows he loves you. Guys wouldn’t sacrifice that for just anyone.

6. He lets you drive.                                            This one might be a little different than you were expecting. Typically the guy does the driving and the buying, but mixing it up a little bit won’t hurt. To some guys, their car or truck is their pride and joy. I mean some guys love it so much that they spend every paycheck they get trying to fix it up; they would probably date it if they could, but that’s not logical though and he has to settle down with someone.. Ladies, we know how we are with our shoes, purses, and other prized possessions, so if he shares his with you whether it be a car or something else, just know, that if he shares, it not only means that he loves you, but it shows that he trusts you as well.

7. He surprises you.                                                 It doesn’t matter if he randomly has flowers sent to your work or if he shows up at your house one evening unannounced, just because he missed you. If he’s willing to put in effort to surprise you every now and then, he loves you.

8. He holds you.                                               Cuddling is a huge stress reliever for both parties involved. So if he turns to you, to hold you and to cuddle, he’s expressing how comfortable and relaxed you make him feel. If he didn’t love you, he’d find something or someone else to turn to when he’s had a bad day. 

9. He laughs with you.                                                Did you know that laughter is a sign of true happiness? If the two of you have fun together and he laughs with you, rather than at you- even though at you is totally acceptable at times- he loves you. It’s proof that he enjoys being with you and that you are both happy.

10. He spends time with you.                       Spending time with each other is key to any relationship. It’s common sense that in order to grow together and for the relationship to work, you must spend quality time hanging out with each other. It doesn’t have to be 24/7, although some of us girls, may expect it to be; any amount of time together is acceptable, as long as it’s a regular thing. If he makes sure to make as much time for you as he possibly can, he loves you. Believe me, he’d fill his calendar with other people or other things if he didn’t.

The bottom line here is that guys don’t always have a way with words. They don’t analyze situations nearly as much as girls do and 99% of the time, they don’t even notice that they haven’t said, ‘I love you’ throughout the day or when they get off the phone. It doesn’t mean that they don’t love us, they just have different ways of showing it. If your hesitant or doubting his feelings, just remember ladies, actions speak louder than words.

What Is There To Debate About A Murder?

Isn’t it sad to see what our world is coming to? Isn’t it scary to imagine what the future holds if things continue as they are now? It seems as though another shooting or another murder is being discussed and debated allover every social media site I can think of every single day.. Debated? But what is there to debate about a murder? A lot in today’s society. 

You see, it’s no longer about what’s right and what’s wrong. An innocent man can be at the wrong place at the wrong time, and just ‘look’ suspicious and his life could be taken in a split second. A police officer can be going in to work one evening and never make it home.. He did nothing to deserve it, but try to protect his community. Innocent children are left to fend for themselves as their parents would rather buy heroin than diapers. Women are getting raped and abused daily, but what they were wearing or what they drank with their dinner provoked the situation; therefore, authorities see no need to take criminal action.

All of these shameful acts of cruelty and harm are no longer being classified by the wrong doings that are occurring in each situation. Instead, they’re discussed as #WhiteLivesMatter or #BlackLivesMatter. But wait, don’t all lives matter? Aren’t we all just human?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not oblivious to the fact that there are cases where race is the issue and that discrimination mination still exits. Our justice system, doesn’t always serve justice, that’s for sure. But at the end of the day, there are still people of the same race and the same ethnicity, killing each other as well. So here’s my question, why is violence the answer and race the problem?

A murder is murder and it should be treated as so each and every time, regardless of what race the shooter/victim may be. A rape is rape, the color of the invidual’s skin involved is irrelevant to the situation at hand. We can all preach and pray for peace on Facebook as much as we want to, but until we open our eyes and see the bigger picture, nothing will change.

Until people realize that a person’s character is not determined by the color of their skin or what those around them are doing, the news will continue publishing these same hateful stories, that we’re all so desperate to avoid watching. One person’s, or a select few people’s, actions should not determine the way we view that group as a whole. When two cops murder an innocent person while on a traffic stop, ten others are breaking down the doors to invade a home that has been performing sex trafficking on local women and children. While a gang of black people are out shooting and fighting, another group is at war, helping to defend our country and the soil we walk on or they’re at home studying for their college class on Monday. While some white people are working in hospitals, helping the wounded and saving lives, others are thieves and murders taking them. There are good and there are bad in each and every ethnic group, there is no life that is superior to another. We are all people, we are all human, we are all one and we need to unite in order to make a difference.

We’re At War With Ourselves..

Children are crying,
The innocent are dying.
People are shooting, killing, and lying.

This drug epidemic is taking authority,

Heroin is a killer, yet it’s still a priority.

Why are we allowing racism to still exist?

People’s response to everything, is talking with their fists.

When did violence become the answer and love become the crime?

Since when is the guilty no longer made to do time?

Why is racism still in existence?

We’re at war with ourselves, because the justice system is so inconsistent.

Open your eyes to the issues at hand,

Are we just going to sit back without taking a stand?

My heart breaks for this country, my eyes cry for our future,

How can we live in a world full of torture?

Until we come together and act as one,

Until issues can be solved without using a gun;

Until you and I aren’t seen as color,

Until we can all learn to love one another;

We can hope and plead and pray for change,

But as long as we allow it, this world will forever be the same.

15 Signs of True Friendship..

In our generation it’s unbelievably hard to know who’s with you for the long haul and who’s only with you until someone else comes along. So many people you thought would be in your wedding someday haven’t talked to you in months and others you’d thought would be your child’s God parents disappeared without any reason. It’s hard to accept it sometimes, but don’t lose hope. Occasionally, out of nowhere and totally unexpected, you’ll meet someone knew and before you know it, it’s like you were destined to be best friends for life. Before you get too comfortable, here’s some tips to prove that your friendship is as real as Monica and Rachel’s from ‘Friends’:

1. There are no secrets.                                                         I mean none. Even when you try to lie or hide something, she knows you so well that she can tell by your facial expressions that you’ve got something to tell her.  

      

2. The only time she makes you cry, is by laughing.                                                                                 You don’t question why you like her so much, she’s the only one who appreciates your laugh and laughs right along with you. The only time a true friend should make you cry is when your cheeks hurt because you two are insanely crazy together. 

3. You can have fun doing nothing.                             Not a single word needs to be said for you to have a perfectly great night together. A large pizza, bottle of wine, and Netflix is one of your favorite hobbies together. 

4. She’s in all of your favorite memories.       Since she’s came into your life, it’s like the two of you became sidekicks. It’s rare to see one without the other and not just for the two of you, but everyone else notices as well. You have more inside jokes that others would never understand and memories that will last a lifetime. 

5. You understand each other.                                                With just one look, you can tell what each other is thinking. You can vent for hours and talk about life for days, she always sees your side of things and you understand hers.

6. Your family is hers and vice versa.                          You basically share siblings and parents. In fact, your parents eventually become friends as well. It’s like you gained a whole new family when you met her.

7. People start to question if your lesbian lovers.                                                                                   You share clothes and a bed most nights. You triple date with her and her boyfriend and she doesn’t hesitate to interrupt any alone time you thought you may have had with yours. Sometimes, your boyfriends feel more like the outcast. You just laugh when people make comments because it’s not the first time you’ve heard it.

8. You cry together, the ugly cry.                                      She’s there through the good times, but even more so during the bad. She will hold you and cry right along with you. She never hesitates to lend her shoulder. It’s like your pain is hers and you would never let her cry alone.

9. You’re honest and always tell the truth.                                                                                             There’s no sugar coating anything when it comes to the two of you. If she doesn’t like your outfit or if you think her hair looks like she’s from 1978, you tell each other like it is. You will tell one another all of the things that everyone else hesitates to say.

10. There is no judging.                                                            Whether it be from your past, present, or your future. You never point fingers nor judge each other. It goes back to the understanding each other part. You don’t care about her mistakes because you know you’ve made them too and you accept that everything that’s happened has lead to both to where you are today. 


11. You help each other, push each other,  and support each other.
                                                      No matter what goals, dreams, or ambitions you have, she’s always the first one there cheering you on. She’s your #1 fan and believes in you more than you believe in yourself. You inspire her and keep her pushing forward when she just wants to let go. You two are a team and have each other’s back.

12. You do most things together, but not everything.                                                                      Like I said earlier, most people find it weird to see you out about without her, but you both make time for other friends as well. You are always down to add another friend to the group, it’s just a known fact that the bond the two of you have, could never be broken.

13. She’s always been there and so are you.                                                                                                        No matter what obstacles life throws your way, you know that you can count on her to pick you up when you’re down and she can always count on you for your words of wisdom. You don’t know how you got this far without her and she can’t imagine going on in life without you.

14. You are two of a kind.                                                   They say opposites attract and in some ways this is true for the two of you; however, 9 times out of 10 you guys are the exact same. You always finish each other’s sentences and you definitely have the same sense of humor. You are partners in crime and always getting in to some sort of trouble.

15. You are so much more than ‘just friends’, you’re sisters.                                                             They say that blood is thicker than water, but when it comes to your friendship, the two of you see no difference. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known each other, forever started at ‘Hey girl!’ and it will never end.

Having a friendship like Monica and Rachel is like finding a four leaf clover in a field. It’s hard, but consider yourself lucky once you’ve found her. It’s like having a soulmate in your best friend’s body. Nothing will compare to the strength of true friendship, so never let it go.

I Believe..

I believe in chasing your dreams, going after something, seeing the unseen.

I believe in love until death do us part,

putting in effort, pouring out your heart.

I believe in destiny and in fate,

pushing on before it’s too late.

I believe in equality and being unique,

never being afraid to stand up and speak.

I believe in trust and in honesty,

letting someone in, having serenity.

I believe in just living life,

taking on each obstacle with all of your might.

I believe in giving your all,

taking a chance and not being afraid to fall.

I believe in you and me,

conquering everything, making the perfect team.

Why Fix Something That Isn’t Broken?

Most of you reading this probably have some form of social media right? Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, etc. I know that for me, those sites become my favorite go to’s when I get bored as I’m trying to force myself to sleep at night or before I find the energy to actually get out of bed to start my day of a morning. Scroll through Facebook, check out Instagram, take a look at Twitter, and repeat. It almost becomes a cycle. 
Well, today I woke up and was doing my usual (just checking my notifications and trying to kill time since it was only 8:07 a.m. on a Saturday!) Anyway, I was scrolling through pictures on Instagram and I saw really rude comments on a girl’s picture. Usually, I look at the pictures and just keep scrolling, but a comment that read, “Lol, if I looked like that I’d never post a selfie!” caught my attention. Surprisingly, the girl in the picture was someone that I’ve always found beautiful, like an Instagram girl crush (don’t lie, we all have them!). So I was taken back when I saw someone being so hateful. I decided to dig deeper and saw more comments such as: “Eat a cheeseburger and while your at it grab a fry you look gross” and “How much money do you spend on make up a week.. Prolly costs more than my groceries.. your face looks fake.” I’m sure these poorly grammered comments don’t have much affect on the girl in the pictures as she has some hundreds of thousands of followers, but it was still eye opening to me. What has this world come to?

Don’t get me wrong, judging is a part of human nature. It’s something we all do, I know I’m guilty. But why? If a girl that lives thousands of miles away is in to fitness and has the perfect winged eyeliner, HOW does that affect you? WHAT does it have to do with you? That’s right, absolutely nothing. Is it hurting you? Is it changing your life or happiness in any way, shape, or form?

“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”

       – Shannon Alder

We, as women, are victimized daily for our bodies; how we dress, what we eat, the clothes we wear.. The list goes on. Did you know that 73% of women have low self esteem? Yupp, that’s right.. The majority of us feel the same way about ourselves- we don’t like this, want to change that, wish this looked like hers, and so on. If this is the case, which statistics show it to be true, then why do we continuously put each other down?
We are ALL human. Which means that we ALL have flaws. Whether you’re a part of the LGBT community, a size 0 or 18, can contour like the Youtubers or don’t wear make up at all.. Whether you’re Asian, Puerto Rican, White, Black, or Indian.. Whether you spend hours at the gym or hours in the kitchen; we are all still in so many ways, the exact same. 73% of us are unhappy with ourselves or there’s something about ourselves that we want to “fix”. The saying goes, why fix something that isn’t broken? So why do we all see flaws as issues or something negative, something wrong? My thighs might be thick but I can still walk, her calves may be tiny but she moves along just fine. 

The truth is, WE are not what needs to be “fixed”. Our flaws give us individualism, they make us who we are. The idea, the perception, of perfection existing, for example: in the celebrities or the famous people that we all idolize so much, that needs to be fixed. Because just like all of the average women across the world, they were born with flaws too. We were made to be different, we were made to be unique. Our imperfections should not be determined by anyone else. So don’t let others change the way you perceive yourself. Embrace the fact that you are  one in a million. This world can make life difficult at times, but know that you are not alone. We are all in this thing together and the majority of us are fighting the same exact battles.

“You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.”

       – Mandy Hale

Your Fairytale Ending..

From the time we were 6 years old, sitting in the living room floor, under the blanket fort we had spent the entire day building, watching Cinderalla for the 19th time that week, we have dreamt of our prince charming. We saw the happy endings in all of the fairytales and created our own visions of how ours would some day be.

From that point on, living meant finding our ‘person’. You know, the one that would come along and sweep us off of our feet at the most unexpected, yet absolutely perfect time. From your partner in Chemistry to the new guy that just flew in from out of state just in time to be your date to the prom or the shy guy behind the counter that sells you a venti, french vanilla frappuccino on your way to work every morning, you question the people you’ve met. Is he the right guy? Did I already meet him and miss my chance? Will I ever find THE ONE? Am I going to be the crazy cat lady (or dog lady, if you’re like me) that’s forever alone?
Don’t worry ladies, we’ve all been there.. It’s scary to see everyone around you settling down, getting married, having kids, the whole sha-bang, while you struggle to decide whether Chipotle or Hot Heads has better burritos. We get so caught up in what we think should be happening and trying to plan a perfect future, that we tend to let the present slip away and that’s where the mistake lies.
You see, the problem is we tend to get so caught up in the idea of “perfect” that we over analyze every person and every situation. The fairytales we watched as children and the love stories we cry over time and time again, tend to leave the not-so-perfect parts out.
It wasn’t until I found my ‘person’ that I realized just what it took to get him. Life is crazy, that’s no surprise to anyone. As soon as everything starts going right, it has a way of making sure we don’t get too comfortable. Relationships are the same way. Everyone makes mistakes, as matter of fact, most of us on a daily basis, so why should we expect a relationship, containing two non-perfect people, to be perfect when we ourselves, are not? It will probably take several heart breaks, a few bottles of your favorite wine, lots of ice cream, some chick flicks, and plenty of sleep overs with your girlfriends, before you find the one you’ve always wanted, but let me just tell you, when you do, there will not be a doubt in your mind.
The thought of “perfect” slowly transitions into that person once you meet him, but wait, that’s a little contradicting right? Since I had previously stated that no one’s perfect.. But that’s the whole idea! When you find your prince charming, you’ll realize that he’s actually not perfect at all. He might pay more attention to his video game than you while he beats that last level or leave the toilet seat up no matter how many times you ask him not to. He’ll probably lose track of time and be late to dinner more than once or make plans with you forgetting he has a baseball tournament that same weekend.. Chances are he’ll drive you crazy and make you want to pull your hair out at least once a day, but guess what? In your eyes, those flaws will be well worth it, they will be your vision of ‘perfect’. When his chest becomes your favorite pillow and being in his arms is your safe haven, when he’s the last thing you think about each night and the first person on your mind each morning. When you miss him before he even pulls out of the driveway, that’s when it will all make sense.
Your relationship will not always be easy, it won’t be rainbows and butterflies forever. The puppy love stage will only last for so long and before you know it, you’ll have your first big fight, then another, and another after that, but the key to eternity with your ‘person’ is to hold on and hold on tight. There will be obstacles you face as a couple, some worse than others, but when you face them as a team, you’ll soon realize the amazing things you can accomplish together, you just can’t give up. At the end of the day, the hardships you’re faced with will bring you that much closer, the bond you form will be truly unbreakable. When you find THE ONE , don’t let go, your fairytale may not be perfect like the movies, but it will be perfect for YOU.

I Miss You.

Letting go never seems fair, but holding on is too much to bare.

Nothing is the same without you there.

People always tell me that this will get easier, I’ll eventually move on,

But I haven’t been the same, since you’ve been gone.

I try to accept it and hide the pain I feel,

But this hurt always reminds me, that this is all too real.

I miss your laugh and the way you made me smile,

What I wouldn’t give to sit with you for awhile.

Whatever you are doing, wherever you may be,

Please continue looking out for me.

I know that we will meet again someday,

But until then I’ll hold on to our memories as I’ve done since you went away.

I love you and I miss you more, every single day.

To My Future Husband..

To My Future Husband,

    You deserve an award. I will never understand how you’ve managed to put up with me for so long and to think, you’re okay with doing it for the rest of your life.. You’re truly heaven sent.

   I’m not the worst woman in the world; however, I will be the first to argue with you over which football game were watching on Sunday’s and I might get a little attitude if you shame my cooking skills, but I promise to be honest and loyal for the rest of our days. You will never have to question who has my heart or where my mind wanders.

  I apologize in advance for anything I may break around the house and then try to fix on my own. I’m a little clumsy, but I will try my hardest to never let you see that. Trust me, it’s embarrassing. To make up for it though, I’ll get down and dirty, so you won’t have to worry about cleaning. I just can’t promise that our house will be spotless every day. If it’s up to me, we’ll have plenty of kids and dogs running around to make sure that doesn’t happen lol.

  I’m sorry if my clothes take up most of the closet (your t-shirts included, we both know those are now mine too) and if there’s no room for your shoes. It’s hard being a girl when there are Targets allover. You should also be warned because I may steal the covers, but I promise to always keep an extra blanket nearby for those cold winter nights. Believe me, we’ll need them- I need a fan on no matter what the weather is like.

  It’s a rule, I get to shower first. I have my hair and make up to do, while you can just rinse and go. I am not always prissy and I won’t always look like I did on our first date- I spent three hours trying to perfect my looks that night- but I will always be myself. My laugh is ridiculously loud and obnoxious and I don’t find tickling funny. In fact, unless you want to start an all out war, I’d be careful if I were you.

  That’s another thing. I’m down to play fight and wrestle with you for hours, but don’t get mad when I beat you. I’ve got three brothers, I’ve been ‘fighting’ for the last 10 years. I won’t get mad if you play the game, as long as you don’t mind if I join in every now and then.. I’ll be sure to give you a challenge, but I can’t guarantee I’ll be good at it, I just think it’s fun.

  Lifetime movies are great and I can’t miss my weekly tv series. We’ll just have to compromise. But isn’t that what this is all about? I do things that drive you crazy and you piss me off more times than I count. We laugh until we cry and hold on tight when the ride gets a little bumpy. This relationship won’t be full of wine nights followed up with pizza (although, wouldn’t that be nice?!), but if we’ve made it this far, I have no doubt that we can overcome whatever life throws our way.

  I have prayed for you since I was a little girl and I’ve spent countless nights on Pinterest planning our lives together. Believe me when I say that you are so much more than I could’ve ever imagined and more than I will ever accept that I deserve. Your reassurance and support will get me through the tough days and your smile will make the good days better. Don’t ever change, you are my soulmate and my best friend. My happily ever after and I cannot wait to spend the rest of my days with you.

– Your Future Wife.