The Life of A ‘Loss Mother’..

​1 in 4. It’s that common. Did you know that more than 500,000 pregnancies each year end in miscarriage? Over 23,600 babies are born sleeping a year in just the United States alone. So many parents are affected by the loss of a child and some families have even suffered from multiple losses. These statistics may seem minuscule in the big scheme of things, because every time you scroll through Facebook or refresh your Instagram feed, it seems like yet another person has announced that they’re expecting, but roughly 19% of the adult population has experienced the loss of a child. Regardless of what stage of pregnancy the loss occurred or how much time the parents were given with their child before they had to say goodbye, there are no words to fully describe the pain that is felt throughout life after that loss. There is said to be 7 billion people in this world and roughly, 1.33 billion are parents who have to go through life without their child (or children). So tell me, why is it not talked about? Why do so many parents feel so alone and hide their stories amongst themselves, when there are over one billion other people in the world who have been in similar situations and are familiar with the grief that takes over, when a child is taken far too soon? 

I am a loss mother. To my fellow loss parents, I know the heartache and the pain all too well and I am here to tell you that you are not alone. I have held back and kept quiet. I have shut myself out from the world. I have been bitter and I have pushed those that are closest to me away, because I didn’t know what else to do. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve. Death affects us all differently and it’s only natural that we find our own ways to cope with it. However, from my personal experience, I learned that not talking about it did not help. Not sharing my story, my life, didn’t change the fact that my heart is forever hurting. I was suffering alone, but that didn’t make my situation any less real. Regardless of if I held it all in and cried myself to sleep for months without ever telling a single soul or if I post novels on Facebook sharing my every emotion, I am still a loss mother and nothing is going to change that.

No two stories are the same; we may have faced different challenges, but we have one thing in common, the longing for our child(children) to be in our arms. The struggles we face as loss parents, never go away. For days, months, and years to follow, we are haunted by the fact that this is our harsh reality. If you are a loss parent or you know or love someone that is, try to remember the following things, when you see that they are having a rough day: (Trust me, they happen and sometimes the grief will hit like a ton of bricks.)

You don’t have to know what to say.

We don’t expect you to, because honestly, there is nothing that anyone can say to ease the pain. Sometimes we just need to know that someone is there to listen and to hold us while we cry.

Don’t be afraid to ask.

Chances are we are waiting for the opportunity to talk about our children. Talking about them keeps their spirit and memory alive and that’s all we have left, so ask us about them. I bet you’ll see the light in our eyes when we start describing the most intimate moments and reminiscing about the sweet little angels they are.

It takes time.

Everyone is different and we all grieve differently. Time does not heal all wounds, because some were just not meant to be healed. The hole in a loss parent’s heart is forever.  I know the emotional rollercoaster ride may seem never ending at times, but we will get there, when we get there and that’s okay.

Blame. It’s going to happen.

As a loss parent, it is impossible not to feel at fault. “What did I do wrong?” “What could I have done differently?” “How could I let this happen?” “I was supposed to protect my child and I failed.” It’s hard, so, so hard, but it is no one’s fault. We don’t always understand the plan that’s in place for us, but we’re not supposed to. Sometimes there is just no justification for when, where, how or why things happen.

Patience is a virtue.

There will be days when it takes everything we have just to get out of bed and change into semi-presentable clothes. There will also be those days where there are more tears than there are words spoken. There will be sleepless nights and a loss of appetite, but be patient. Figuring out how to put the pieces back together isn’t an easy task, but having support to stick it out through the dark days, makes it seem less impossible.

Tomorrow is another day.

Some days smiling comes easy. Our hearts are full of hope and faith. The memories we have bring joy and we are overcome with happiness because of the unconditional love the we felt from our little ones. Signs of our angels will appear in the craziest ways, letting each of us know when our babies are near. Those are the good days. They may be few and far between, but when they happen, it’s a reminder that we are going to be okay, that we are going to make it.

The journey of life after loss is just that, a journey. Every day is a challenge, but it is another day closer to being with our children again. Pregnancy, infant, and child loss are so common all over the world and the more we open up about it, the more we can come together. Losing a child doesn’t make someone any less of a parent; they just become an extra special kind, because their child is an angel. Share your story or be a listening ear. Let’s break the silence.

I Found My Faith In You.

The news channels are constantly filled with tragedies and sadness these days, from murders and robberies to different disasters occurring all over the world; yet, in the midst of all the chaos and madness going on, I have found my piece of faith in you little one.

You see, right now you’re still growing and you’re still developing. You are completely unaware of what’s happening all around us. Your innocent eyes have yet to witness pain and your pure heart knows nothing but the love that your daddy and I express to you daily. To you, crime and evil don’t yet exist and I wish more than anything, I could keep it this way forever.

You know, I have a huge job lying ahead of me, as your mommy.. There are so many things I’ve jotted down in journals and lists I’ve made in random notebooks, in order to try to remember everything that I want to teach you. But as I sit here, thinking about all that is going on in the world, something became very clear to me..

All the lists, the notes, the ideas that I’ve come up with, in hopes to help you grow into an amazing man, are nothing compared to what I need to show you about cherishing each and every moment of your life. Sure, you’ll need to know your ABC’s and how to count to 100. Your daddy will teach everything important about how to throw the perfect spiral and hitting a line drive that not even Brandon Phillips can catch, but at the end of the day, on top teaching you all the necessary hacks to life, I hope I can show you how to love..

​You’re going to be told the same thing for the rest of your life, that “time goes faster than you think,” but trust me, it really does. So love hard and love passionately while you can, because things won’t always be the same. Your friends will probably change like the seasons, but you’ll meet the select few that will stick by your side through thick and thin. Your favorite sport will change as you realize which one you’re better at or maybe you won’t even like sports at all. Everything that seems to make sense one day, will make you feel scatter-brained the next, but that’s okay.

Hold on to each moment that you’re given, even the struggles, because although it may seem like your world is crashing down at the time, when you look back, you’ll see how every obstacle you faced had a part in shaping you into the perfect gentleman that I know you’re going to be. Spend your life doing whatever it is that makes you happy. Make memories with anyone. No, actually make memories with everyone, because there will come a time when memories are all that are left. I know I’ve told you a lot of things, most that you won’t understand for a little while longer, but I have one more request of you..

Always remember that you are my entire life and that is the one thing that will never change. When things get tough and when you want to give up, don’t. I can’t promise you that this life will always be easy but I can promise you that we will face it together, because you will always be my baby.

To The Girl Who Lost Herself In The Midst of The Chaos.

Listen, I get it. I totally do. We’ve all been there before. You didn’t ask to fall for him, it just kind of happened. But when the honeymoon stage has faded and the ‘fairytale’ has ended and you finally see his true worth, no excuse that you give me is enough for me to think that you should stay in this toxic relationship and here’s why..

“I don’t want to be alone.”
Since when did being ‘single’ become being alone? You’re only alone if you sit in the house and mope around thinking about and missing him. You have friends and family that love you and chances are they miss you, a lot, especially since most of your time has been spent with him recently anyway. Go out and have fun. Be the twenty-something year old you are and enjoy it while you can.

“I’m comfortable.”
Change is not always a bad thing. If you think about it, change is all around us and year after year things change, it’s a part of life. Just because you’re used to not being happy, doesn’t mean that it’s right. Plus, getting rid of him will be a good kind of change. You’ll no longer have to worry about pleasing anyone but yourself and we all deserve to be a little selfish sometimes.

“I’ve already put in too much time and effort.”
EXACTLY. This is a prime example of why you need to run away while you can. When it’s true love and it’s real, it won’t take months (or years) to make it work. It will just happen. Why spend even more of your time putting forth effort with a boy that isn’t doing the same for you? A relationship should always be 100/100. If you’re not getting what you give, it’s time to move on.

“He will change.”
Oh really? I mean, I guess I could totally believe this if I hadn’t already heard it a million times before. You cannot force him to change. A person will only change when they are ready and they see it fit. If he doesn’t want to change- and obviously he doesn’t given the last 20 chances you’ve given him- you can kiss that thought goodbye, because it’s not going to happen.

“I love him.”
Ever heard the saying, if you love someone let them go? It’s pretty accurate if you ask me. Loving someone, loving the idea of someone, is not the same as being in love with someone. When you are in love, you are fully committed to that person. You will find the good in their flaws and you will love them even on their bad days. Does he do this for you? I doubt it, because if he did, people would be able to see it from the outside and you wouldn’t feel the need to justify why you’re dating him.

“I don’t want to hurt him.”
If you’re still with him after all that you’ve been through, that just shows how big of a heart you have. Not many girls would stick around the way you have and that’s because you care about others so much, but he is not your problem. It is not your job to ‘help’ him. You are not his mother. He didn’t care to hurt you, did he? If you’re not happy, then staying isn’t fair. Sure there are times that you’ve been happy over the course of your relationship, but you deserve to be happy every single day.

I know it’s hard to believe, but at the end of all of this, you will be okay and you will be stronger than you’ve ever been before, but you need to let go. You’re never going find the man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated if you continue holding on to the boy who doesn’t appreciate you. It will be difficult at first but it will get easier. I promise. One day, you will wake up and look in the mirror and you will be proud of the courage you’ve gained by simply walking away. You will learn to love yourself again.

So let goMove on. Find the girl you lost in the midst of all this chaos. She’s still there and she will be even better than ever before if you let her.

The Life of A ‘Basic’ Girl’s Boyfriend.

​Ladies, we all know how we are, although some are more willing to admit than others.. We can be overly sensitive, a bit melodramatic at times, occasionally emotional, and sometimes feisty, but let’s be real, what’s not to love about that perfect mess?

​It’s hard for us to accept the fact that most guys just don’t understand us and probably never will. Sure we can burst out into tears when our eyeliner just won’t ‘wing’ right or when we have to decide if being late to work is worth the long line at Starbucks (because a Venti Iced Espresso Vanilla Latte is literally life) but that’s just normal issues that everyone has at some point, right? Eh, wrong, at least for a man, that is.

​As you can see, the life of a basic girl’s boyfriend can be somewhat exhausting with trying to keep up with our ever-changing emotions. So guys, here are some pointers to prepare you before you take the plunge and finally make it ‘Facebook official’ with what seems to be your dream girl..

Food is not just for eating.

Don’t even think about touching your plate before it’s positioned just right for the perfect picture to upload on Instagram and don’t be offended when the conversations are paused for at least five minutes after the picture is taken as she makes one of the most difficult decisions of her day, which filter to use.

Buy an extra TV.

Trust me, this will not be a waste of money. Whether it’s Orange Is the New Black or Pretty Little Liars, The Bachelor or a classic Lifetime movie, she will want to control the television. Unless she’s one of the lucky ones that finds a man who will enjoy these shows with her, I guarantee you’re going to want your own TV at some point, either to play Xbox or watch College football.. I promise, you’re going to thank me later.

Get used to the camera.

Along with your fancy plates, your face will be allover Instagram too. Prepare yourself for millions of selfies in one day, wearing the same outfit, until she finds the perfect angle. Before long you’ll be used to it and you will no longer mind the fact that you have become the designated picture taker because you’re arms are longer so selfie’s are just easier for you.

You will listen to Justin Bieber and Taylor Swift.

You can deny it all you want and you can try to fight it, but believe me, you will. You’ll end up knowing the words just as well as she does. You’ll find the songs stuck in your head even when she’s not around. It’s worth it for her though, because she’ll really appreciate your jam sessions together.

Diamonds? Sure, but make-up? Always.

You will never believe the amount of time she has spent on Youtube watching videos trying to conquer the perfect contour and highlight to make her face look like Beyonce when she wakes up, flawless. You’ll never guess how much money it cost for her to get the perfect color locks. Compliment her. She will notice when you don’t.

Time management is not a thing.

5 minutes means at least another hour and rushing her will only slow her down, because then she’ll get stressed and you know how emotional she is when she gets stressed out.. so, just make yourself comfortable. If the two of you need to be somewhere at a certain time, tell her it’s an hour before when you actually need to be there and you might just make it when you’re supposed to.

Her friends will know everything.

If you mess up, be prepared for her friends to know all about it. If you hurt her, you hurt them all. You think one girlfriend is rough, try one girlfriend and her three best friends, you will never win that war. So remember what you got yourself into and don’t be an, excuse my language, asshole.

Snapchat is her diary.

You can pretty much figure out anything you need to know about her day by checking out her Snapchat story. She loves to document when her favorite song comes on the radio while she’s driving and she is obsessed with all the different filters. If you have any questions or she’s not answering your calls, check her story, I bet you’ll get all the answers you were looking for.

​Having a ‘basic’ girlfriend really isn’t all that hard and you will get the hang of it eventually. We’re easy to please for the most part, if you can see past our expensive habits and accept us for the princesses we are, lol, you’ll be just fine. So, remember these few tips and others that you’ll learn as you go and you will be in there like swimwear. You might as well skip the dating scene and put a ring on it, you’re a keeper

Why Fix Something That Isn’t Broken?

Most of you reading this probably have some form of social media right? Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, etc. I know that for me, those sites become my favorite go to’s when I get bored as I’m trying to force myself to sleep at night or before I find the energy to actually get out of bed to start my day of a morning. Scroll through Facebook, check out Instagram, take a look at Twitter, and repeat. It almost becomes a cycle. 
Well, today I woke up and was doing my usual (just checking my notifications and trying to kill time since it was only 8:07 a.m. on a Saturday!) Anyway, I was scrolling through pictures on Instagram and I saw really rude comments on a girl’s picture. Usually, I look at the pictures and just keep scrolling, but a comment that read, “Lol, if I looked like that I’d never post a selfie!” caught my attention. Surprisingly, the girl in the picture was someone that I’ve always found beautiful, like an Instagram girl crush (don’t lie, we all have them!). So I was taken back when I saw someone being so hateful. I decided to dig deeper and saw more comments such as: “Eat a cheeseburger and while your at it grab a fry you look gross” and “How much money do you spend on make up a week.. Prolly costs more than my groceries.. your face looks fake.” I’m sure these poorly grammered comments don’t have much affect on the girl in the pictures as she has some hundreds of thousands of followers, but it was still eye opening to me. What has this world come to?

Don’t get me wrong, judging is a part of human nature. It’s something we all do, I know I’m guilty. But why? If a girl that lives thousands of miles away is in to fitness and has the perfect winged eyeliner, HOW does that affect you? WHAT does it have to do with you? That’s right, absolutely nothing. Is it hurting you? Is it changing your life or happiness in any way, shape, or form?

“Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.”

       – Shannon Alder

We, as women, are victimized daily for our bodies; how we dress, what we eat, the clothes we wear.. The list goes on. Did you know that 73% of women have low self esteem? Yupp, that’s right.. The majority of us feel the same way about ourselves- we don’t like this, want to change that, wish this looked like hers, and so on. If this is the case, which statistics show it to be true, then why do we continuously put each other down?
We are ALL human. Which means that we ALL have flaws. Whether you’re a part of the LGBT community, a size 0 or 18, can contour like the Youtubers or don’t wear make up at all.. Whether you’re Asian, Puerto Rican, White, Black, or Indian.. Whether you spend hours at the gym or hours in the kitchen; we are all still in so many ways, the exact same. 73% of us are unhappy with ourselves or there’s something about ourselves that we want to “fix”. The saying goes, why fix something that isn’t broken? So why do we all see flaws as issues or something negative, something wrong? My thighs might be thick but I can still walk, her calves may be tiny but she moves along just fine. 

The truth is, WE are not what needs to be “fixed”. Our flaws give us individualism, they make us who we are. The idea, the perception, of perfection existing, for example: in the celebrities or the famous people that we all idolize so much, that needs to be fixed. Because just like all of the average women across the world, they were born with flaws too. We were made to be different, we were made to be unique. Our imperfections should not be determined by anyone else. So don’t let others change the way you perceive yourself. Embrace the fact that you are  one in a million. This world can make life difficult at times, but know that you are not alone. We are all in this thing together and the majority of us are fighting the same exact battles.

“You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.”

       – Mandy Hale

Your Fairytale Ending..

From the time we were 6 years old, sitting in the living room floor, under the blanket fort we had spent the entire day building, watching Cinderalla for the 19th time that week, we have dreamt of our prince charming. We saw the happy endings in all of the fairytales and created our own visions of how ours would some day be.

From that point on, living meant finding our ‘person’. You know, the one that would come along and sweep us off of our feet at the most unexpected, yet absolutely perfect time. From your partner in Chemistry to the new guy that just flew in from out of state just in time to be your date to the prom or the shy guy behind the counter that sells you a venti, french vanilla frappuccino on your way to work every morning, you question the people you’ve met. Is he the right guy? Did I already meet him and miss my chance? Will I ever find THE ONE? Am I going to be the crazy cat lady (or dog lady, if you’re like me) that’s forever alone?
Don’t worry ladies, we’ve all been there.. It’s scary to see everyone around you settling down, getting married, having kids, the whole sha-bang, while you struggle to decide whether Chipotle or Hot Heads has better burritos. We get so caught up in what we think should be happening and trying to plan a perfect future, that we tend to let the present slip away and that’s where the mistake lies.
You see, the problem is we tend to get so caught up in the idea of “perfect” that we over analyze every person and every situation. The fairytales we watched as children and the love stories we cry over time and time again, tend to leave the not-so-perfect parts out.
It wasn’t until I found my ‘person’ that I realized just what it took to get him. Life is crazy, that’s no surprise to anyone. As soon as everything starts going right, it has a way of making sure we don’t get too comfortable. Relationships are the same way. Everyone makes mistakes, as matter of fact, most of us on a daily basis, so why should we expect a relationship, containing two non-perfect people, to be perfect when we ourselves, are not? It will probably take several heart breaks, a few bottles of your favorite wine, lots of ice cream, some chick flicks, and plenty of sleep overs with your girlfriends, before you find the one you’ve always wanted, but let me just tell you, when you do, there will not be a doubt in your mind.
The thought of “perfect” slowly transitions into that person once you meet him, but wait, that’s a little contradicting right? Since I had previously stated that no one’s perfect.. But that’s the whole idea! When you find your prince charming, you’ll realize that he’s actually not perfect at all. He might pay more attention to his video game than you while he beats that last level or leave the toilet seat up no matter how many times you ask him not to. He’ll probably lose track of time and be late to dinner more than once or make plans with you forgetting he has a baseball tournament that same weekend.. Chances are he’ll drive you crazy and make you want to pull your hair out at least once a day, but guess what? In your eyes, those flaws will be well worth it, they will be your vision of ‘perfect’. When his chest becomes your favorite pillow and being in his arms is your safe haven, when he’s the last thing you think about each night and the first person on your mind each morning. When you miss him before he even pulls out of the driveway, that’s when it will all make sense.
Your relationship will not always be easy, it won’t be rainbows and butterflies forever. The puppy love stage will only last for so long and before you know it, you’ll have your first big fight, then another, and another after that, but the key to eternity with your ‘person’ is to hold on and hold on tight. There will be obstacles you face as a couple, some worse than others, but when you face them as a team, you’ll soon realize the amazing things you can accomplish together, you just can’t give up. At the end of the day, the hardships you’re faced with will bring you that much closer, the bond you form will be truly unbreakable. When you find THE ONE , don’t let go, your fairytale may not be perfect like the movies, but it will be perfect for YOU.

It’s Unbelievable Where Life Could Take You.

Ya know, life is just crazy sometimes, better yet, MOST of the time. Just when we think we’ve finally got it all figured out, it’s like life sees us getting too comfortable and bam, just like that, another curveball is thrown at you, completely ruining your plans.

I thought I knew everything at 16 because sitting behind that wheel for the first time gave me all the power in the world. Again at 18, I knew I had it all planned out because I was finally legal and officially recognized as an adult. As 20 came along I was no longer a teen and was determined to take on the world. Here I am, 23, more lost than I’ve ever been and I’m realizing that this is perfectly okay.

I’ve spent most of my time trying to find ways of perfecting my life and making sure I was fully prepared for any obstacle that may my come way. When I tried college but it wasn’t my gig, I felt like a failure. When I quit my job to start all over again somewhere completely different, I felt like a loser. I’ve made an endless amount of mistakes, as I’m sure most of you have too. For awhile, I regretted them. I constantly thought about the ‘what if’s’ and pictured where I’d be if would’ve done things differently, but one day I realized that I was doing this thing called life so wrong..

I’ve learned that the key to life is not about living it perfectly and there is no way to ever be prepared for all of the challenges that may come your way. It’s not about doing everything ‘right’ and always having the answers.

From the time we were in grade school, we were told that the plan is to graduate; go to college; become a teacher, doctor, nurse, etc.; find a life partner, fall in love, get married, and start a family. Doesn’t that sound perfect? Isn’t that how 99% of the movies we’ve grown up watching portray life to be? Well guess what, that’s not always how it works. Some people will do it backwards, some may never follow it at all. But, to each their own, because there is no set in stone way of life. What’s right for someone, may not be good for someone else. What works for one person, may not go over well for others. The mistakes I’ve made are not because I’m a mess or don’t know what I’m doing. Their purpose was to bring me to the place I am today. They have helped shape me into the woman I am now and I no longer regret them. I don’t have to know exactly where I’m going, in fact, the unknown is part of the thrill.

I’ve found that the purpose in life, the reason for our individual stories, is to be happy. Fully, completely, and genuinely happy. If there’s something you don’t like, change it. If there’s negativity surrounding you, let it go. If you’re doubting your decisions and questioning why you are where you’re at in this very moment, know that it’s because that’s exactly where you’re meant to be. John Lennon once said, “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” So don’t worry too much if you feel lost or uncertain, hold on to the things, places, and people that make you happy. It’s unbelievable where life could take you.

Life of a Softball Player’s Girlfriend.

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We all have our ‘thing’ in life right? Clearly mine is writing, but some people love to cook, bake, dance, sing.. The list goes on forever. It’s great to have a hobby or do something that just makes you happy. It’s even better to see someone you love do what they love. That’s what it’s like to be a softball players girlfriend. If you’re considering dating someone that plays this game, here’s a few pointers to get you prepared for the journey you’re going to embark on every season, every year:

It’s NOT a game. 

There’s actually a saying, “SOE” which stands for softball over everything. If you hear it, don’t get offended. When he’s at the fields, it really is softball over everything. If he’s anything like the average player, he will take it very seriously. If he makes an error or gets out, it’s best to steer clear of him for at least 10 minutes, unless you’re bringing him a beer, in which case, he may not pout for nearly as long.

Enjoy it.

Trust me, it may seem like softball season is never ending, sometimes you’ll be convinced that every weekend for the rest of your life (or as long as your dating him) will be spent at the ball fields, but enjoy it. You’ll come to find out that those 3-4 months out of the year that he’s not playing are actually pretty boring, you may end up missing the season more than he does by the time winters over. Going to the fields can actually be fun.

Don’t be stuck up his ass.

Excuse my language, but seriously. Like I said, going to the fields can be fun, but not if you’re that girlfriend that cannot be away from her boyfriend for 2 minutes. Softball is HIS thing. Remember, you’re solely there for support & beer (who doesn’t love a tub or five of alcohol?!) so if he goes off with his friends during a game break instead of having a make out session with you, it’s NOT the end of the world. This will actually give you time to meet some of the other wives/girlfriends and make friends of your own! I’ve met some of my favorite people and best friends at the ball park!

Traveling.

Yup, that’s right. Depending on what team he plays for & just how into it he may get, there’s always traveling in softball. This could be the perfect time for you to get to know the team and spend time with them or it could be your own mini-vacation from both him AND softball so you just have girls days back home instead, whichever you prefer. Please don’t make it an argument if he decides to go and you’re not/can’t. There are plenty of other things he could be doing instead of playing with balls with other men (LOL jk) but don’t hate him too much for playing.

He loved it first.

Chances are, you’re boyfriend was playing ball long before he even knew you existed or at least before you took part of his heart.. Anyway, because of this, when phrases like “SOE” are heard, know it’s nothing personal, but softball has a place in his heart too. He’s allowed to love you both, definitely you more, BUT when it’s game time, that becomes his priority.

Plan ahead.

This will save you a lot of arguments and spare you a lot of time. If you want him to come on a family vacation or you want to plan a romantic getaway for just the two of you, PLAN AHEAD. It’s a lot easier for him to go into the season knowing when he can’t play then wait until a week or two before hand to let him know about it, after he just found out they have a big tournament that same weekend. He’s not trying to choose softball over you, but he doesn’t want to let his team down either. Make it easier and don’t wait, so that everyone will be prepared.

It’s family.

Like I said earlier, I’ve met some of my best friends at the ball park. When he’s been playing softball for awhile or played on the same team for several years, you’ll soon realize just how close they are. There’s nothing like the friendships of those teammates. You’ll most likely know everyone’s entire family by the end of the season & you’ll feel like part of the gang. Don’t take those friendships for granted, once the seasons over, you’ll be surprised how often your schedule will allow you to hang out with them and you just never know what team he may end up on next year.

Basically, dating a softball player can be challenging at times for different reasons, but ultimately, it’s pretty great. Drink up and enjoy it. Love him for loving the game, you’ll learn to love it too, if not, there’s always more beer, and you can never go wrong with that. Here’s to the start of the season and the first tournament down.