There’s A Person Out There Somewhere Looking For Someone Just Like You.

     I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. Some may find their soulmate at 15 years old, while others are lucky at 40, but regardless of when we find them, I believe that there’s a person out there somewhere looking for someone just like you. We date, or at least most of us do, with the hopes of finding the relationship that has the spark that will never burn out. With each relationship, we open our hearts and pray that ‘this one will be it’, that all the tears and the lonely nights have come to an end, but even when we’ve found the one, how do we know for sure? Do we ever really know or do we just take the chance with the person that seems to fit best in our lives, because we’ve been so desperate to find love for so long? There is a difference between loving and being in love and trust me, when you’ve found your person, you will easily be able to discover it. Here are just a few subtle signs that you’re on your way to forever with ‘the one’..

1. You argue.                                                         Yes, that’s right. You disagree and you argue. I know you’re probably thinking I’m crazy for believing that arguing is actually a good thing, but I promise, arguments are key in a strong relationship. They always say that you can’t appreciate the good times, without experiencing the bad too. So don’t start planning the break up as soon as things get tough, we are adults. We should all know by now that nothing in life comes easy (especially not relationships with the opposite sex).

2. You make up.                                                        If you understand that you are both human and make mistakes (don’t get me wrong, there are certain mistakes that this rule doesn’t apply to) and can forgive each other; if you never go to bed angry with one another, and you both learn to compromise because suddenly, it’s not just your own happiness that matters anymore; what you’ve got is something worth holding on to. Making up is the best part about arguing, it’s an opportunity to remember just how much the other person means to you and value the fact that you’re both willing to accept each other’s craziness.

3. You are happy.                                                    Completely and utterly, 100% happy. When being in their presence gives you butterflies and looking into their eyes makes you smile; when doing nothing at all becomes more fun than going out every weekend; when the only time they make you cry is from laughing too hard and you really only get mad when they don’t share their food with you.. Know that what you have together is rare and it’s special. Cherish it.

4. You have no questions, no doubts, no worries.                                                                        You don’t wonder about where they are or what they’re doing, while other people are stalking their significant others’ social media pages to make sure they’re not up to no good. You don’t question when they will be home, because you trust them without a doubt. The two of you are capable of being away from each other, but at the end of the day, you’d much rather be together. When there are no questions because there are no secrets, it’s real. Trust is pertinent in a lasting relationship.

5. You just know.                                                     When they are the first person on your mind when you wake up and the last person you think about before you fall asleep; when it doesn’t matter what happens in life, they are the one you always want by your side and the first person you tell all of your secrets to; when they are your best friend, your partner, your confidant, don’t let go. 

The truth is, there’s always going to be obvious hints that can either make or break a relationship, but when you’ve finally got the right one, it’ll be hard to find all of the words to describe it, there will be no uncertainty. No argument could ever break the bond between the two of you and none of life’s obstacles will bring you down for too long, because your partner on this journey through life will be there helping you back up, every single step of the way. When you’ve got ‘the one’, you will feel it in your gut and know with every inch of your being, that they are your soulmate and your happily ever after. 

What Is There To Debate About A Murder?

Isn’t it sad to see what our world is coming to? Isn’t it scary to imagine what the future holds if things continue as they are now? It seems as though another shooting or another murder is being discussed and debated allover every social media site I can think of every single day.. Debated? But what is there to debate about a murder? A lot in today’s society. 

You see, it’s no longer about what’s right and what’s wrong. An innocent man can be at the wrong place at the wrong time, and just ‘look’ suspicious and his life could be taken in a split second. A police officer can be going in to work one evening and never make it home.. He did nothing to deserve it, but try to protect his community. Innocent children are left to fend for themselves as their parents would rather buy heroin than diapers. Women are getting raped and abused daily, but what they were wearing or what they drank with their dinner provoked the situation; therefore, authorities see no need to take criminal action.

All of these shameful acts of cruelty and harm are no longer being classified by the wrong doings that are occurring in each situation. Instead, they’re discussed as #WhiteLivesMatter or #BlackLivesMatter. But wait, don’t all lives matter? Aren’t we all just human?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not oblivious to the fact that there are cases where race is the issue and that discrimination mination still exits. Our justice system, doesn’t always serve justice, that’s for sure. But at the end of the day, there are still people of the same race and the same ethnicity, killing each other as well. So here’s my question, why is violence the answer and race the problem?

A murder is murder and it should be treated as so each and every time, regardless of what race the shooter/victim may be. A rape is rape, the color of the invidual’s skin involved is irrelevant to the situation at hand. We can all preach and pray for peace on Facebook as much as we want to, but until we open our eyes and see the bigger picture, nothing will change.

Until people realize that a person’s character is not determined by the color of their skin or what those around them are doing, the news will continue publishing these same hateful stories, that we’re all so desperate to avoid watching. One person’s, or a select few people’s, actions should not determine the way we view that group as a whole. When two cops murder an innocent person while on a traffic stop, ten others are breaking down the doors to invade a home that has been performing sex trafficking on local women and children. While a gang of black people are out shooting and fighting, another group is at war, helping to defend our country and the soil we walk on or they’re at home studying for their college class on Monday. While some white people are working in hospitals, helping the wounded and saving lives, others are thieves and murders taking them. There are good and there are bad in each and every ethnic group, there is no life that is superior to another. We are all people, we are all human, we are all one and we need to unite in order to make a difference.